Making Mistakes With Your Sex Toys? We Give You 5
5 Sex Toy Mistakes You Don’t Know You Are Making
Your sex toys are beautiful and glorious but they can hurt you – we know, it sucks, but it’s true. And the worst part is that you might not even realize it is happening. Nonetheless, the trick to better sex is to choose your toys as carefully as you select your best online dating sites.
But it doesn’t stop there; getting better sex from your toys also means taking good care of them. So we’ll look at some of the mistakes you might be making with your sex toys, and then we’ll tell you the best ways to correct those mistakes.
Let’s dive in:
You Buy The Most Popular/Expensive Options
Why is sex better with some than others? If you’ve asked yourself this question before, then it’s likely you’ve tried a couple of sex toys. Raise your hand if the ones you’ve been buying are either the most popular or the most expensive in the market.
Now, there is nothing wrong with wanting to spend an extra buck on yourself. There’s also nothing wrong with getting reviews and popular opinion to help you make your first sex toy choice. But if you really want better sex, forget about buying the most expensive or popular one.
Instead, buy the one that fits your needs. What do we mean? Do you prefer deep strokes? Then let your sales clerk know that is what you want from your sex toy. Are you the kind of girl that needs some extra clitoral stimulation? That is the toy you should get.
You will find there are many different toys, each designed to cater to different needs. So, for better sex, get the best one for you.
You Don’t Read The Instructions
Think of this as your better sex course: always read the instructions before using your sex toys. Here’s the truth, the government regulates sex toys because most of them are made from chemicals called phthalates that are harmful to your health.
Therefore, start your better sex journey by ensuring that your choice is not toxic to your health. Additionally, you’ll find that some toys are not to be used in some regions of your body – the instructions will tell you how to use your new tool properly.
This also includes information about not using too much water on battery-operated vibrators – you don’t want to electrocute yourself before you get an orgasm. So, read the instructions before use.
You Don’t Clean Or Store Your Toys Correctly
Which is better slow sex or fast? To each their own, but not when it comes to cleaning your sex toy. We cannot stress this enough; better sex is not worthy of the bacterial infection you will get if you do not clean your sex toy.
And don’t just clean, clean them well. For most sex toys, soap and warm water are enough to get them clean. But sometimes, it can get challenging to clean them immediately after use. So keep a packet of wet tissues next to your toy and wipe it after you are done.
But to be sure, read the instructions to know exactly how to get yours clean because sex toys carry as much bacteria and infection as having sex without protection.
You Expect Better Sex From Your Toys Than From A Partner
Is sex better with someone you love? Yes. Can you get better sex with toys? Sometimes, and frankly, most of the time. Think about it, who knows your sexual needs better than you? And if you have a suitable sex toy, getting better sex for life is a ready reality.
But can they replace light kisses on your neck, whispers in your ear telling you how gorgeous you are, or warm, intimate cuddles? Of course not. You see what we mean; no tool can replace the touch of another human.
Another mistake you might be making is focusing so much on getting an orgasm. This not only puts pressure on you but your partner as well. And there’s no way you’re getting better sex if you’re not having fun.
Your favorite toy should work as a supplement to your lovemaking, not the leading player in the game. In a nutshell, your sex toy is that extra cherry on top of your vanilla ice cream.
You Don’t Use Protection
We mentioned that sex toys could just as easily infect you as would unprotected sex. It is effortless to get an infection if you use them anally then insert them in your vagina. Additionally, you will need proper protection if you and your partner are using the same toy.
This calls for a good collection of condoms or sex toys, separate ones for you and your partner, and anal and vaginal sex.
PS: As a side note, will exercise make sex better? Yes, science has proven that you will get better sex function if you exercise regularly.
It is possible to get better sex for a lifetime. And when it concerns sex toys, all you need to do is be a little more precise with your options, use, and maintenance. Remember, the primary goal of using one is to add pleasure to your sexual experiences.
So don’t be shy to suggest your favorite ones to your partner. Speaking of suggestions, have you introduced the use of sex toys for better sex to your partner before? Let us know whether you were successful.
Davis is a marriage and family therapist. She has worked in a variety of therapeutic settings over the past 7 years providing services to children, adults, families, and couples. She is currently doing specific research on the topic. Miranda loves traveling and hiking.